As marriages were historically accomplished
by capture (the groom would kidnap the
woman), a warrior friend was often
employed. This Best Man would help the
groom fight off other men who wanted the
captured woman, and would also help in
preventing the woman’s family from finding
The bridal party has many origins, not the
least of which are the Anglo-Saxon days.
When the groom was about to abduct his
bride, he needed the help of many friends,
the "bridesmen" or "brideknights." The
"gentlemen" would make sure the bride got
to the ceremony on time and to the groom’s
house afterwards. The bride also had women
to help her. These were known as the
"bridesmaids" or "brideswomen."
Why Does the Bride Carry Flowers?
For centuries, flowers have stood for a variety of
emotions and values. Roses for love, lilies for virtue
and so on. In ancient marriages, the brides carried herbs
beneath their veils to symbolize fidelity. Greek brides carried ivy as a
symbol of never-ending love. Orange blossoms, (the world renowned
wedding flower) were chosen by the Spaniards to
represent happiness and fulfillment, because the orange tree flowers and
bears fruit at the same time. During even earlier times of "primitive
marriage," when the fear of demons was most prevalent, the brides
carried stinking garlands of herbs and spices for the purpose of
frightening off evil spirits.
Today, brides carry flowers in the color scheme of their wedding, bringing
beauty and elegance as well as old world customs to their special day.
Have you considered spelling out the name of your groom in the flowers of
|Rev. Deborah A. Hoch
Justice of the Peace/Clergy
|SONGS FOR MOM AND SON
"A Wedding Day Wish for My Son"
"A Song for My Son-by Mikki Viereck"
"A Song for Mama-by Boyz II Men"
"First Lady in My Life-by Paul Todd"
"I Am Your Child-by Barry Manilow"
"Mommy's Little Boy"
|Something Old, Something New,
Something Borrowed, Something Blue
Something old must be something that has
belonged to a happily married woman to
ensure the transfer of happiness.
Something new is normally the gown or
Something borrowed should be gold to
ensure future wealth and fortune.
Something blue, symbolizes modesty,
fidelity, and love.
It is said that this tradition first began in
France where bread would be placed in the
bottom of two drinking glasses for the
newlyweds. They would then drink as fast
as they could to be the first person to get to
the toast. According to legend, the winner
would rule their household!
THE SAND CEREMONY
Legend has it that it probably began in
Hawaii when couples would stand barefoot
on the beach. At the right moment in the
ceremony, they would reach down and take
a handful of sand from beneath their feet
and pour it into a single container.
Like the Unity Candle, the Unity Sand
Ceremony represents the unification of two
distinct families, and the separate
individuals of the bride and the groom, into
a new, single, whole.
Unlike the Unity Candle, the Unity Sands are
used to symbolize an indivisible union
because once merged, the separately
colored grains of sand can never be
A constant reminder of your special day